Dance of Anger ​
Harriet Lerner

Wild Feminine

Tami Lynn Kent 

Daring Greatly 
Brene Brown

Mating in Captivity 
Esther Perel

Energy Medicine 
Donna Eden

In the beginning, we gathered as women. We were born, we grew up along side each other - leaning, supporting, laughing, listening, loaning, loving our children, and storytelling for our families and communities. We had a remarkable ability to withstand bleak times, knowing instinctively how to hold tightly to each other until the worst had passed. We knew sun would come again. We had the gift of groundedness reminding us of nature's beauty and life's simple joys. We intuited what the world needed. We touched often, surrounding our communities in safety nets of nurture. Today, we struggle to gather. We are so tired and stretched and empty that there's no energy to gather. Women are often alone and disconnected from their tribes and the world is suffering for it. How can we address this? Every training I go to reinforces the importance of group work. I've seen this in my postpartum groups over the last 12 years. There is no substitute for group accountability and companionship. In groups, women can come alive again and remember who they are and what they can do. This stays with them for life. We just need to give them permission to prioritize their tribes again. The ripple effects are far reaching, spurring healthy marriages and families.

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Why do you need Women's Group?

The Dare 2 Dance Women's Group brings women together to grow. Each group follows a curriculum designed to hit on all of the common obstacles for women today including:




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You would join a group of fantastic women on a journey of self-discovery. The format for these meetings would be open share / discussion using the chapters of various books, movies, music as backdrop followed by journal and homework.  Meetings would be virtual for now and would last around 2 hours but can be kept to 1 1/2 hrs if group wanted and needed that. I would set up a separate WhatsApp chat for this group as an additional space to support each other between meetings. Groups run an average of 16-20 weeks, though many groups (including the one I am in) choose to continue with additional curriculum as a support system for themselves though life's challenges.

Personal Testimonial to Women's Group...


self esteem ​

exhaustion

intimacy

high anxiety/ depression 

emotion regulation 

professional/personal balance

birth order legacies

​generational shame 

Current Research on Group

  • Sleep
  • Eat well 
  • 30 Min Self Time 
  • Listen to her body's wisdom
  • Walk barefoot outside on rocks
  • ​State of the Union w/ Partner
  • Body work weekly fm others
  • Emotion Exploration
  • Anger is your yellow flag
  • Individual Time 1 nite a week 
  • Hire a Babysitter for Date Nite
  • Women's Weekly Group Mtg
  • Know Your family Legacies
  • Pursue your Bucket List
  • Daily Meditation
  • Rituals of Grounding
  • Lean on your Community

I'm 47 years old. The oldest daughter of three children. I have two younger brothers, one in San  Antonio and one in
Austin. My parents are still alive and still together, though they live far away. I've been married to the same man for
20 years now, though the person I married and the person he married have evolved a bunch from the two kids that
exchanged vows. We have four children, one dog, four guinea pigs and six fish. I began a journey like the one I'm inviting
you on in my mid twenties. I lost the thread and rediscovered it when I had my first child. Again I lost the thread and

grabbed it for good when I stopped nursing my last child and was forty-two. In retrospect, there was a roadmap I was

following, I just didn't know it existed. I wanted to be different than the way I grew up. I wanted to understand emotions,

feel safe in relationships, stay in my own skin and become who I was meant to be. I wanted to evolve - but I didn't know

how. So I got lost often, like a cornered animal, chewing on my own paw with all the rage I had. I got contemptuous, so

bent on self preservation that I feasted on my own partner. I kept distanced and safe behind my relationship shield and

did not nourish the many opportunities I had to befriend incredible women. I got emotionally disregulated, feeling

overwhelmed by my fear, anger, confusion, impatience, betrayal, loneliness, exhaustion, hopelessness, and most of all

consumed by my shame for my life, my marriage, my parenting, my extended family and my missing of a community of

fellow travelers.  But I didn't talk about it or acknowledge it or hope for any different....until one day, I did. In a group of

women. And the world as I knew it, awakened. You are not alone. If I could give you anything, as an older woman to a younger woman, it would be that everyone is where you are / have been / will be.  Your challenges will be unique and only you can face them, but your group can be your witness and you are NEVER alone. That is how tremendous change happens. 

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Current research in the U.S. is showing an alarming increase in anxiety and depression in individuals and families. Even our children are beginning to struggle with anxiety. More than ever before, we are turning to medication, distraction and avoidance to manage that anxiety.  Mental health has never been more important than it is today. We need a sense of “belonging and purpose” to make true change.  And we must have safety and accountability to hold us while we do so. Groups are a low cost, long term safety net for navigating this current climate of anxiety and depression while at the same time building the communities/tribes we have been hungry for our whole lives to keep us moving forward. It’s a win/win and the impact is far-reaching - first you, then your marriage, then your children, then your families, then the communities you belong to and finally the women who will gravitate to you (for reasons they don’t understand) to also learn to “dance”.

Personally, I'm in a group that has been going on for 5 years now. I can’t say enough about it or what it has meant for my own growth and confidence. I don't see it ending any time soon. It’s an ongoing investment in me which affects my marriage, my family and my clients. My husband is also in a long term group (10yrs -one of the requirements for therapists in general and DBT therapists in particular). His group does the same for him. We owe so much of where we are today - the health of our marriage, the happiness of our children and the hopefulness for the future to group work.
​Long live group!!!

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​lost dreams